We both confessed we often don't hear from each other for weeks sometimes, simply because we are too Debbie Downer to enter anyone's world. So we just shut up and shut down. Go off the radar.
For me, that pretty much describes the past 24 hours.
It started with a 3:30am airport run (did you read that, folks? 3:30 A.M.!) to send my husband and oldest son off to Maui. Luke and the Vanderbilt Commodores play in the prestigious Maui Invitational basketball tournament all week. I am happy for my whole family; sad for me. (We are in the last 3 days of a ratings period, so I have to stay in Nashville.)
|Coolest text ever from my darling Nicole|
To keep from tumbling into a dryer-load of despair, I checked out a fresh batch of books to keep my dopamine pumping. I learned last weekend at a local TedX event, where those 12-20 minute "ideas worth sharing" lectures come from, that learning something new "lights up" the brain and spikes dopamine production.
It's much like traveling, laughing, and deep talks with my family and friends do for me.
Which brings me back to being alone.
Why does it bother me so?
|My Wing Siblings!|
Perhaps it's what my brother and I call the "Wing Discontent" rearing its cruel and ugly head, our constant battle for stimulation, evolution, and purpose.
However, in just the last few hours while listening to one of my newly check-out books on tape, it occurred to me perhaps it's more deeply rooted.
Oprah writes in "What I Know for Sure" that each of us at our core longs to be valued: "The yearning to be heard and loved is so strong, we seek it wherever we can get it."
Oprah admits she didn't feel loved -- and thought she'd make people approve of her by being an achiever. Until she learned the following:
"The love and approval I craved could not be found outside myself. A lack of intimacy is not distance from someone, it's disregard for yourself....You don't have to spend one more second deprived of the affirmation you should have gotten from your parents. Look inward. The loving begins with you."
Whoa. Is this my over-arching issue? If so, what do I do now?
This morning I took a step in the right direction. I scheduled an early shoot to get dressed, out of the house, and surrounded by PEOPLE, followed by a live radio interview to talk about the Nashville Rescue Mission and its upcoming Hearts for Hope luncheon on Valentines Day.
|Post-interview fun on the Michael DiGiorno show|
"Gratitude can transform any situation. It is the quickest, easiest, most powerful way to affect change in your life," the Queen of Talk insists.
Care to join me?